Soul Mates or Sole Mates? A Primer.
Some people think that a soulmate can be made, others think that God picks them out for you.
Some involve physical attraction as a symptom, while others consider it a purely spiritual phenomena.
Still others think that only one person in the whole world can actually be a soulmate, while others believe that family and close friends fall into the same category (albeit unromantically) as the potential spouse (or significant other).
At any rate, the jury’s still out as to which of these is actually true, but it’s still food for thought, I think...
Symptoms
Feeling like you’ve always known one another.
Some people just seem to know how to deal with people that they just met. They seem to have a bond that makes them feel emotionally connected, and sometimes care about one another from the start.
Hitting it off immediately.
This can sometimes be tied to the previous one, but not always. Sometimes, however, there won’t be that instant almost-recognition, as in the previous one, but the two will get along famously. This may be because of similarity to one another, or because one might have known someone like the other in the past.
Being on the same wavelength.
Sometimes you won’t feel like you’ve always known each other, or even hit it off, but you’ll have the same goal, the same ambition, the same plan, etc. This may be professionally, personally, or familially, even. People with this seem to be able to read one another’s minds, finish one another’s sentences. But this is one step before...
Seeming to be psychically connected.
My Protestant brothers will scoff at this, I know. But. Some people may think they’re not only on the same wavelength, but are actually part of a one-to-one connection. In this, people may have visions of the other people (like in Jane Eyre) needing help, prayer, or whatever; it may also lead a person to have sympathetic pain (like if my leg suddenly starts hurting, and it turns out that he injured the same one on the same day, or something) or even involve true dreams. Again, many people have decried this is imagination and superstition, but I just thought I should mention it.
Situations
Linked hearts.
Imagine two complete hearts who are linked, like those linking rings they have in circuses. In this view, the people aren’t interdependent, but they ARE connected deeply and completely with the other. The linked ones may be born that way, or grow that way, but it’s not something that HAS to be from the beginning of time. In my view, this one is best paired with the pool of possibilities idea, and I happen to think (at this time) that this is how it works.
Obviously, however, I’m not God, so I can’t say for sure, and anyway, this is a philosophical discussion, not a primer on the way souls migrate, or whatnot, so just read, consider, and come up with your own ideas on the matter.
Half and half.
In this view, each half is literally incomplete without the other. This might be because the other person is their missing half, or because the person actually sees himself (or herself) as incomplete without another half, no matter who this other half is. (I disagree with this view, for the record. Half a person has no business getting married till he or she is complete. Otherwise, they’ll be clingy and whiny about being incomplete. Really. I know people like this. It’s not pretty.)
The thrown-together-bond.
This is a created bond, and arises as a result of working together, or going through a process or experience or situation that puts you, for the time of the throwing together, anyway, on the same wavelength. The bond may or may not last permanently.
The pool of possibilities.
In this view, there are many people all over the world, all of them similar for one reason or another, who can potentially be together successfully. This is in direct opposition to the next one, so poetically called...
The one and only.
Yep, in this view, there’s just the one person. If you don’t meet them or they die, you’re plumb outta luck. Some people feel that this sort of bond can actually be created, but that’s hardly likely, is it? I mean, if a bond can be created, then it’s just a matter of finding another person and hitting the same bit of circumstances, leading to a similar bond. Hence my lack of confidence that this is the correct model.
*This posting has been gratuitously knicked from my second book, Date Like An Egyptian. Go to the library and read the rest of it now!
Some involve physical attraction as a symptom, while others consider it a purely spiritual phenomena.
Still others think that only one person in the whole world can actually be a soulmate, while others believe that family and close friends fall into the same category (albeit unromantically) as the potential spouse (or significant other).
At any rate, the jury’s still out as to which of these is actually true, but it’s still food for thought, I think...
Symptoms
Feeling like you’ve always known one another.
Some people just seem to know how to deal with people that they just met. They seem to have a bond that makes them feel emotionally connected, and sometimes care about one another from the start.
Hitting it off immediately.
This can sometimes be tied to the previous one, but not always. Sometimes, however, there won’t be that instant almost-recognition, as in the previous one, but the two will get along famously. This may be because of similarity to one another, or because one might have known someone like the other in the past.
Being on the same wavelength.
Sometimes you won’t feel like you’ve always known each other, or even hit it off, but you’ll have the same goal, the same ambition, the same plan, etc. This may be professionally, personally, or familially, even. People with this seem to be able to read one another’s minds, finish one another’s sentences. But this is one step before...
Seeming to be psychically connected.
My Protestant brothers will scoff at this, I know. But. Some people may think they’re not only on the same wavelength, but are actually part of a one-to-one connection. In this, people may have visions of the other people (like in Jane Eyre) needing help, prayer, or whatever; it may also lead a person to have sympathetic pain (like if my leg suddenly starts hurting, and it turns out that he injured the same one on the same day, or something) or even involve true dreams. Again, many people have decried this is imagination and superstition, but I just thought I should mention it.
Situations
Linked hearts.
Imagine two complete hearts who are linked, like those linking rings they have in circuses. In this view, the people aren’t interdependent, but they ARE connected deeply and completely with the other. The linked ones may be born that way, or grow that way, but it’s not something that HAS to be from the beginning of time. In my view, this one is best paired with the pool of possibilities idea, and I happen to think (at this time) that this is how it works.
Obviously, however, I’m not God, so I can’t say for sure, and anyway, this is a philosophical discussion, not a primer on the way souls migrate, or whatnot, so just read, consider, and come up with your own ideas on the matter.
Half and half.
In this view, each half is literally incomplete without the other. This might be because the other person is their missing half, or because the person actually sees himself (or herself) as incomplete without another half, no matter who this other half is. (I disagree with this view, for the record. Half a person has no business getting married till he or she is complete. Otherwise, they’ll be clingy and whiny about being incomplete. Really. I know people like this. It’s not pretty.)
The thrown-together-bond.
This is a created bond, and arises as a result of working together, or going through a process or experience or situation that puts you, for the time of the throwing together, anyway, on the same wavelength. The bond may or may not last permanently.
The pool of possibilities.
In this view, there are many people all over the world, all of them similar for one reason or another, who can potentially be together successfully. This is in direct opposition to the next one, so poetically called...
The one and only.
Yep, in this view, there’s just the one person. If you don’t meet them or they die, you’re plumb outta luck. Some people feel that this sort of bond can actually be created, but that’s hardly likely, is it? I mean, if a bond can be created, then it’s just a matter of finding another person and hitting the same bit of circumstances, leading to a similar bond. Hence my lack of confidence that this is the correct model.
*This posting has been gratuitously knicked from my second book, Date Like An Egyptian. Go to the library and read the rest of it now!
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